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Made a Commitment – Thoughts for January 5, 2015

OK, we have all heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

We all know that nothing changes if nothing changes, right?

Then why are so many people just settling for less? Less than….

  • Less than what they want?
  • Less than their goals?
  • Less than they know that they can have?
  • Less than they deserve?

Is it really laziness? Some would say yes, I wouldn’t.

Some people are working 60 to 70 hours a week just to earn a paycheck, are they lazy? Don’t think so.

Some people are raising children and struggling to make ends meet week to week or month to month, are they lazy? Anyone that has children knows that the answer to this is a definite no.

What is my point?

It is that we are so conditioned in our society today, that the only way to succeed in life is to work hard. That we all need to find a company to hire us, hopefully get benefits and then work our butts off to make THEM money. Work until we are 65 (ahem!) and then try to figure out a way to retire for the rest of our days.

What if we changed something up in there? What if those of us willing to work hard could do so to make money FOR OURSELVES AND OUR FAMILIES?

Impossible you say?

All those money making ideas and get rich schemes are just rip offs, right?

But what if there is a way. And what if this way was an actual business that YOU run yourself. Now of course to run a business will take hard work, but wouldn’t it be worth it if this was real?

Now what if this company was dedicated to helping people?

What if it was more dedicated to helping people change their mindset and thinking than it is to making money?

Think about it……it is our mindsets that hold us back. It is our current thinking that got us where we are today. Now if you are happy where you are, that is AWESOME. But the fact that you are reading this right now kind of tells me that you probably aren’t or at least would like something better.

I just listened to an audio from Empower Network called “Tapping Into Your Internal Power” and was absolutely blown away. They offer a program called the Inner Circle that delivers weekly audios that I have been downloading and listening in my car any time I go somewhere, and all of them have been great, but this one really stood out for me.

There were many great points that were made on this audio, but the one that stood out to me the most was that a lot of people would rather take the easy way out of just about anything, but if you think about it:

  • It is just as easy to turn off the TV as it is to turn it on
  • It is just as easy to listen to an educational or motivational audio in the car as it is to listen to music or news
  • It is just as east to TAKE ACTION as it is to not take action.

All it is, is a decision. A commitment that you want to change in any area of your life, and an unwavering dedication to that commitment!

We have made a decision and we have made a commitment to this new business, it is our new passion. I look forward to getting up every day to work at it and it is paying off.

There are a billion people on the internet, just think about that for a minute. These are your customers. The possibilities are completely endless.

The decision is yours, keep doing what you are doing?

Or………We’ll be on the inside waiting

Watch this video and make a decision

Mark and Michelle Eaves

Maybe It’s Not Them

What is it that makes people think that if you don’t talk about something, it (or they) will go away?

Present company included. For the longest time, if something came up or someone close to me acted a certain way, then I would do everything in my power to look the other way and hope that it will sort itself out. And the funny part is that it did, or at least I thought it did.

If there was some situation that I needed to address at work or at home, just look the other way and act like I know what I am doing. For God’s sake don’t ask what is going on or try to get to the root of the problem. That would be too much like work. (Gasp!) Eventually something else will come along and that first situation will not be so important, or even better, the situation takes care of itself and then I can stand back, throw my hands in the air and act like I knew nothing about it and none of the ramifications would be my fault. That was my MO, my modus operandi, my method of operation.

Didn’t talk about family issues outside of the house, for fear that “someone find out.” Find out that we weren’t perfect? That we have issues just like every family in the world?

And now Facebook comes along and I am sure that a lot of people that grew up before the internet age (yes, there was life before the internet) are just rolling in their graves because everyone’s dirty laundry is being aired for the world to know about. I was recently warned to be careful about what I put on Facebook, because people might find out stuff about me that could be embarrassing.

eccentricEvery family has someone that is not “normal”. Maybe I am that person in my family. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of, things that hurt my family and probably embarrassed them. It has gotten easier over the years to talk about some of them, but there are some that are just too taboo to even bring up. In fact there is a good chance that I am the only one that still thinks about them.

But one thing that I have learned very recently is that these things do not go away. They get buried inside and fester and wait, they are very patient. They build up resentments, either against another person or more often than not against myself. I had to do some very serious soul searching and get all of these issues written down on paper, and then talk to someone about them. There was no other way I was told, that if I wanted to start healing, then they had to come out.

Now I didn’t go off half-cocked and start telling everyone that would listen all of the sordid stories of my past, but I did find someone that I knew that I could trust and I told him everything. I talked about things that I had honestly planned on taking to the grave with me. It was a cleansing of sorts. It was amazing the amount of (self-inflicted) pressure that it took off of my shoulders, just being able to get it out, after almost 30 years of just trying to bury it.

What is my point? Just that we often condemn people for being different, for not being like us. That too often that person is just looking, crying out for someone to listen to them and to try to understand why they act like they do. We were just talking last night about a famous comedian who admitted that he often locks himself in his bedroom for days at a time when he is not performing. Robin Williams, one of the funniest men I have ever heard, committed suicide. They try to make us laugh, to feel good about ourselves, but who does that for them? I guess we figure that if we see someone acting a fool and cracking jokes, that he is happy. That might not be the case, at least it wasn’t in my situation. I always tried to put on a happy outer appearance so that people would not try to get inside, it just seemed easier that way.

empathy-quoteI am as guilty as anyone for shunning people for being outrageous or eccentric or just plain different. And I need to stop judging them and maybe, just maybe get to know them a little better, to understand why they are like they are. I know how it feels to think that you are being shunned, so you try to be something that you are not just to get acceptance, just to fit in. And for anyone that I ever did that to in the past, I apologize.

So for all the eccentric aunts and uncles, for all the “Cousin Its” out there that are shunned or cast aside because you are not like everyone else, keep being yourself. You might not be the one that needs to change!